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Hello loves, ❤

How is everyone this fine Friday? (It’s Friday here in Sydney, Australia) I hope everyone has been doing well, are healthy & happy 🙂

What a crazy week its been 🙂 I had B’s birthday last weekend  – We got her a lovely cake & personalised cookies made 🙂 everyone loved them & thought they were DELICIOUS!

The cake was THE PERFECT CHOCOLATE MUD CAKE! I loved it, the company did such an amazing job as well as the other company that did the cookies 🙂

We all had such a lovely dinner (that I couldn’t eat all, they PACKED the plate with lots of food)

On the Sunday, B & I headed to the blue mountains & had a lovely massage & a beautiful High Tea at Lilianfels in the Blue Mountains, about 1.5 hours away from where we live, it was such a beautiful day, we both needed it so I was happy we got to pamper ourselves. She had the best birthday – & I am so grateful for that bc she is more then deserving of the weekend she had ❤

I have been quite busy lately & I am going to put a post up sharing what I have been doing 🙂 I am thinking of not posting every dingle day moving forward, I am thinking every 2-3 days, I will put a blog post up.

I have posted every single day since August last year & I have to say sometimes it becomes real tiring – Sometimes my blog posts are scheduled bc I do a bulk-write & schedule them but I am thinking of backing off a little bit.

Here we are again, putting another 1000 views into the bag. 91,000 views 🙂 I am so grateful for getting here, thank you to all the love& support I’ve received over the last 2 and a bit years, you are all very loved 🙂

Thank you to the below people for re-blogging my work:

• Proud Trans Lady

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

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Raise The Vibrations In Your Home

Hello loves, ❤

We often talk about places and people exuding ‘good energy’ or ‘bad energy’ – when we really mean the energy is high or low.

In scientific terms, describing energy as high or low is actually describing the rate of vibration or frequency.

The higher a ‘vibration’ of a person or place, the better we feel. And the higher the vibration of our homes, the better we feel in them. They become a safe haven, a space to recharge our batteries and lift our spirits.

Here are 15 ways to raise your home’s vibrations for health and happiness.

1. De-Clutter

Removing clutter, duplicate items and things that we no longer have a use for can free up space, and leave us feeling much happier and more comfortable.

Pare down your wardrobe, dump the ‘just in case’ items you never use, and always choose quality over quantity. Other ways to de-clutter your home include borrowing instead of buying, using multi-purpose products and spending on experiences rather than ‘things’.

2. Burn Herbs

The burning of herbs, a practice known as smudging, has been used for thousands of years to cleanse the air of impurities such as bacteria and viruses. Smudging is also used as a traditional mystical ritual, changing, clearing and shifting the surrounding air.

Take a dried bundle of herbs and light it, then quickly blow the flame out, allowing the smoke to waft around the house. Both the healing properties and scent of the herbs are released into the air. While sage is by far the most popular herb to smudge with, pine, rosemary, and lavender are also good options.

Smudging can be used to clear your space when:

• You move into a new home
• You begin a new job or career
• A guest leaves your home
• Before meditation
• You have just had an argument or suffered an illness

You can also burn an herbal incense by blending ground herbs together and placing the mix on a lit charcoal disc on top of your incense burner.

Use sage, thyme, rosemary, lavender, peppermint, pine needles, frankincense or patchouli to clear the air, and your space.

3. Diffuse Essential Oils

Essential oils work to cleanse your home and help you feel light and uplifted by diffusing their unique and pleasant scent through the home. Many also have potent antimicrobial properties which remove airborne viruses and bacteria.

 

To raise the vibrations in your living space, try diffusing rose, basil, cypress, frankincense, juniper, lavender, myrrh, sage, peppermint, sandalwood, cinnamon, rosemary and eucalyptus.

If you don’t have a diffuser (and here are 10 reasons why you should) you can also mix up a cleansing room spray and spritz it around the home.

Mix six tablespoons of filtered water and 10 to 40 drops of essential oils of your choice in a small spray bottle. Shake well before each use.

4. Switch on Himalayan Salt Lamps

These softly glowing salt lamps are a natural source of fresh, clean air – just what you need to cleanse your home while providing an aura of calm.

Because they attract water, they have the incredible power to remove dust, pollen, smoke and other impurities from the air. Himalayan salt lamps also give off negative ions which mean they increase energy levels, remove static electricity, neutralize electromagnetic radiation, encourage sleep and improve overall mood.

5. Play Music

Music is more than just entertainment or an art form. It can have a soothing and healing effect on the whole body and alters the vibes in whatever space it fills.

Several studies have shown that the right kind of music provides pain relief; benefits the heart, blood and immune system; enhances learning; fights fatigue; and promotes sleep.

Of course, its ability to improve our frame of mind is beyond doubt. For the most mood boosting and positive vibrational effects, choose Classical, Jazz, Folk, Orchestra, Soul or Opera music. If they don’t do it for you, crank up anything that makes you feel good – whether that’s Jason Mraz, Florence and the Machine or Tracy Chapman!

6. Add Plants and Fresh Flowers

Experiencing nature and all it has to offer is a surefire way to enjoy positive vibrations, mindfulness and an uplifted mood. Eco-therapy (being in nature) has even garnered the attention of the scientific community as many studies find it fights depression, and improves mental health and well being.

Why not bring nature indoors and attract positive energy to your home? One way to do this is to fill your living space with potted plants and fresh flowers – their bright colors and fragrance also make for a welcoming space.

According to experts, certain plants are better than others at promoting positive energy and improving wellbeing. Some of the best include cactus, bamboo, jasmine, lavender, miniature roses, rosemary, mint, chrysanthemums, aloe vera and orchids.

7. Consider Crystals

Using crystals for healing and positivity dates back to ancient times. The Sumerians made magic potions from quartz, the Greeks wore amethyst as amulets, and the Chinese used jade in medicine.

Try adding these popular crystals to your home, said to have numerous benefits:

• Turquoise – the master healer, highly regarded for its protective and ‘lucky’ properties.
• Bloodstone – a powerful energizer, boosting enthusiasm and emotional wellbeing.
• Smoky quartz – helps you let go of negative energy.
• Rose quartz – helps to open and heal the energy of the heart.
• Carnelian – attracts fortune and encourages creativity and motivation.
• Quartz crystal – balances the body and clears the mind.
• Celestite – relieves stress and inspires happiness.
• Citrine – helps you to be present and live in ‘the now’.
• Aventurine – attracts new opportunities.

Even if you don’t believe in the healing powers of crystals, they will add some bling to your home which is guaranteed to improve your mood!

8. Choose Colors That Positively Affect Your Mood

The colors used in our home are a direct reflection of our personalities and can affect our moods and our thoughts – in the most subtle of ways!

Our reaction to a color is unique to us so choose what feels right for you. In general, we are affected by color in the following ways:

• Red – raises a room’s energy level and gets the adrenaline and blood pumping. It can be too stimulating for some people, and some spaces. Crimson can invoke feelings of rage and hostility.
• Yellow – is energizing and uplifting, it captures the joy of sunshine and signals happiness. Too much yellow can create feelings of frustration and anger.
• Blue – can be calming, relaxing and serene but can also cause feelings of sadness.
• Green – the most restful color for the eye, it promotes comfort, calm and growth.
• Purple – dark tones are associated with luxury, creativity and the dramatic. Lighter versions bring the same restful quality as blue, but with more warmth.
• Orange – evokes excitement, enthusiasm and energy.

9. Light Candles

Candles have been used for millennia to provide light, convey calm and highlight celebration. Their deep yellow glow is hypnotic, reflective and a great focal point for meditation.

Burning any candles will help increase the vibrations in your house, but choosing your candles in certain colors and scents (like those listed throughout this post) will raise them even higher.

10. Let the Fresh Air In

A stuffy, oxygen-depleted home can lead to feelings of lethargy and low mood. It’s just a plain unpleasant place to be! One of the easiest ways to refresh the air is to open your windows. Just letting in a few minutes of fresh air each morning before you go to work will cleanse and rejuvenate.

Increase the oxygen levels in your home and you’ll soon feel more energized, you’ll sleep better and enjoy improved overall health.

Other ways to keep your indoor air feeling fresh include avoiding chemical air fresheners, washing smelly clothes right away and keeping your pet beds clean.

11. Meditate

Raise your own vibrations through positive thought, clear intention and a focused perspective – also known as meditation!

When you do, you will begin to feel happier and less stressed. You will enjoy greater concentration, awareness and self-acceptance. There are physical benefits too – like better heart health, immune function and longevity.

Once you begin to feel the beneficial effects of meditation, you’ll soon begin to associate them with the place you mediate – your home!

12. Fill Your Home with Beauty & Happy Memories

Make your home an extension of you! Choose items that have meaning, that make you happy and that inspire you.

When choosing to keep or remove each piece, ask yourself if it evokes good or bad memories, or has positive or negative connotations.

Artwork, books, trinkets, signs, memory jars and framed photos all serve to turn your home into a place of positive energy – just don’t stand for clutter!

13. Cut Down on Electronics

Having the television turned on can affect the atmosphere of a given room – depending on what is playing and how it makes you feel. Be conscious of when and what you watch on television.

What’s more, there is a direct cause-and-effect relationship between the amount of time spent watching television and eventually being diagnosed with depression – something that will definitely lower both your vibrations, and those of your home!

14. Remove Toxins

Having a house filled with chemicals and other toxins is sure to negatively impact your health, your mental wellbeing and the vibes around you.

Clear the chemicals from your personal care products with these natural beauty tips, and make sure to eliminate these sources of hidden toxins from your kitchen and pantry.

15. Create a Space for Relaxation

While your entire home should feel like a place you can relax and enjoy, carving out a sanctuary in a room, cubby or corner just for you is important. Appreciate this space and relish the time you have for yourself – spend at least ten minutes there every day.

You can use it for meditation, reading, yoga, or anything else that will revitalize you and raise your vibrations!

Hope the above has helped you all ❤

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

 

Things You Need To Know If You Love Someone Who Suffers From Anxiety Attacks

Hello loves, ❤

When the people you love suffer from afflictions that you don’t know much about, it can be difficult to help them, even if you do your best. Anxiety attacks are something people commonly deal with for a variety of reasons, and when someone close to you has them frequently, you may not know what to do to help. Read on to find out some basic things you need to know in order to support your close friends and family before, during and after an anxiety attack.

1. Don’t Question Their Reasoning

The thing about anxiety attacks that everyone who has them knows is that they can be equally triggered by things that make sense and things that don’t as much. For example, a friend might begin to have an attack because they put too many chocolate chips in their pancake. You might feel inclined to take them less seriously because of this, but for them it might have trigger anxieties that relate to that activity. Always recognize that their attack is valid even if you don’t understand it.

2. Offer Your Help

Everyone is going to react differently when you offer help during an anxiety attack, so don’t take their answer personally. Some people may need you to talk them out of it, hold them while they go through it or even leave them alone so they can just wait it out. The key is to give them the power to control the situation, so their anxiety can be eased.

3. Focus on Breathing

Practicing a breathing exercise can help at all times surrounding or during an anxiety attack. By doing a breathing exercise to relieve anxiety that’s right for them, your loved one could do this on their own when they feel themselves getting anxious. If they want you to stick around during an attack, try to talk them through the exercise in an effort to help calm and refocus them.

4. Meditation Can Help

The difference between meditating and doing a breathing exercise is that meditation focuses the mind and air intake, while watching your breathing is just a calming method. You can meditate with your loved one as a sign of support so they don’t feel alone in learning to control and channel their anxiety. Meditation has been proven to help control triggers and impulses that relate to anxiety attacks, so even just trying it could give your loved one a moment of peace and calm.

5. Set Boundaries

Some anxiety attacks are caused by people overthinking, so boundaries can help them learn to narrow down what anxieties they deal with every day. Your loved one could worry about their health and repeatedly ask if they should go to a doctor or if what they have is serious. Good boundaries could be limiting their questions to three, then if they have concerns after that, they get one call to their doctor for advice. Boundaries show that worries can be dealt with quickly and don’t always have to spiral.

6. Go to A Professional

Never underestimate the kind of help a mental health professional can provide if no other options have worked. They might recommend something like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is a psychotherapy that aims to modify dysfunctional behaviors and thoughts. It’s commonly used to treat anxiety and has given people positive results. Seeing a professional wouldn’t be a sign of weakness. It might be the best way for the person you love to overcome their anxiety and live their best life.

Talking about their anxiety attacks is sometimes the hardest part about life for someone who experiences anxiety. It’s not always easy to explain and they may feel defeated by it, making it a big insecurity. There are lots of ways you can help your loved one who deals with anxiety attacks, but the biggest help you can give is by always providing a safe space for them to come to so they don’t have to worry about any judgement.

And never forget that even if the person you love finds ways to cope with their anxiety and struggles with it less over time, it’s a personal issue that follows people their entire lives. There’s no magic word or trick anyone can do to instantly take it away. There may be relapses or long periods of success, but always promise to be there for them if they should ever need it.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤

Real Reasons Why Dealing With Anxiety Is The Worst

Hello loves, ❤

I like to call anxiety the silent killer of my aspirations. It likes to convince me that I have nothing good to say, or that, even if I did, someone else is already saying it better than I ever could. It likes to set negative expectations, so that in the event that the bad thing actually happens, my useless fears are reinforced. “See?” my anxiety says, “what did I tell you about ignoring me?”

They say fear is a natural thing. It serves an important role in our lives, and has kept our species from dying out. Anxiety is fear on steroids, it’s death from the inside out. It’s when your brain is hijacked and constantly in fight or flight mode. It’s exhausting, it’s useless, and fighting against it makes you feel like David standing up to Goliath. There’s many reasons I despise my anxiety, but the following five are the bulk of my scorn.

1. The Ups and Downs.

Anxiety is one step forward, one step backward, a never ending cha cha. You feel trapped in a loop of “wow, I’m doing so much better” and “today I failed massively.” The worst part? You don’t know if you’ve really failed, or if it’s just your anxiety is making you feel like you did.

2. Constantly needing reassurance.

Constant reassurance. You know, more than anyone, that it can be a pain. The last thing you want to do is ask your friend if you did an okay job ordering from the drive through, because the lady at the window looked at you kind of funny. Sometimes the “you did fine” that follows isn’t enough to calm your racing thoughts.

3. Always worrying about something.

Anxiety is proactive and reactive. It will not only stop you from doing things you want to do, thus, being proactive. It will also plague you when you are having fun. There’s always that moment where your immediate problems have all been solved and you feel almost as if you’re missing something. Shouldn’t I be worrying about something? Then it starts again. To be noted: if you have anxiety, googling symptoms of an illness is not advisable.

4. Caring too much. About everything.

Anxiety likes it if you care what other people think; that further hinders your ability to find yourself and be truly happy. If you try to cater to everyone, you will be locked in a very tight box, I assure you. It’s so easy to lose sight of your own identity in trying to make it fit with someone else’s picture of what is right. It’s hard not to want to shrink yourself into the smallest person you can be, just to appease your fears.

5. Being too much while simultaneously not being enough.

You’re too much of a worrier, too much of a people pleaser, not enough of a risk taker, not enough of an individual. If anxiety and all the things it prohibits is not enough, the constant misunderstanding of those around you can really make you want to crawl into a hole. It’s important to accept who you are, anxiety or no. It’s important to ignore the people who don’t appreciate you, but it’s so much easier to say these things than to actually do them.

My anxiety is a grotesque, slimy creature that feeds off of canceled plans and inner turmoil. I don’t like it, and I don’t like its friends. This is why I hate my anxiety.

Wherever you are in the world, have a lovely day ❤